This was too good not to share. Excerpts from Elder Neal A. Maxwell's book "All These Things Shall Give Thee Experience." No coincidence that I'm reading it now.
There are direct,
obvious, and traditional services to be performed, such as providing food, clothing,
shelter, and physical care. But there are also more subtle needs to be met that
are no less real for not being quite so visible.
So often what
parched and thirsty people need is to be nourished by the drinking of true
doctrines and to be revived by the food of fellowship. Giving genuine
companionship to the malnourished mortals who have known so little love and so
few friends is as vital as food for the starving.
So often we can
serve by bathing the wounded and bruised egos of others in the warm waters of
deserved commendation.
So often what
people need is to be enveloped in the raiment of real response.
So often what
people need so much is to be sheltered from the storms of life in the sanctuary
of belonging.
Frequently, we
busily search for group service projects, which are surely needed and commendable,
when quiet personal service is also urgently needed. Sometimes the completing
of an occasional group service project ironically salves our consciences when,
in fact, we are constantly surrounded by a multitude of opportunities for
individual service. In serving, as in true worship, we need to do some things
together and some things personally. Our spiritual symmetry is our own
responsibility, and balance is so important.
We should balance
the service we give as between, for instance, the young, pretty, and handsome
and the old who are worn and frail.
We should balance
our service between those who give us immediate response and gracious
appreciation and those who are grumpy—so grumpy they almost dare us to love
them.
As we strive to
render significant, though often quiet service, we should avoid life patterns
in which the seeming pressures can make for superficial service and rushed
relationships. What C.S. Lewis said of our reception-oriented social gatherings
is often true: meeting people in such settings is like reading only the first
page of one hundred different books—very unfulfilling! All of us should strive,
therefore, to have some friendships that are deep and solid—so solid, for
instance, that if they were interrupted, the unfinished conversation could be
resumed months later almost in mid-sentence, just as if we had never been
apart.
You and I are
believers in and preachers of a glorious gospel that can deepen all human
relationships now as well as projecting all relationships into eternity. Friendships,
as well as families, are forever.
When we see
"things as they really are," we shall see others and ourselves as we
really are.
Let us, therefore,
define service to others as including genuine listening—a listening that is
more than just being patient until it is our turn to speak; rather, a listening
that includes real response, not simply nodding absorption.
Let us think of
service not only as giving, but also as receiving righteously. Parenthetically,
one of the many reasons some of today's children have not learned to give is
that some parents do not know how to receive.
Let our service, at
times, include a willingness to hold back in conversation when what we would
have said has already been said—and perhaps better. To contribute not money,
but time and space, so that another can expand is to reflect a quiet nobility. There
are so many times when to forgo is to make way for another.
We can serve by
giving deserved, specific praise.
Genuine responsiveness
to the achievements of others is a noble, though subtle, way to serve. It means,
of course, that there will be times when we applaud and no one notices our pair
of happy hands, and no one even hears our added decibels—except us and the
Lord. There are so many times when genuine human service means giving
graciously our little grain of sand, placing it reverently to build the beach
of brotherhood. We get no receipt, and our little grain of sand carries no
brand; its identity is lost, except to the Lord.
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