I was just trying to be Brave.
I just wanted to come out of my Closet of Shame.
I just wanted to be Real.
I was only trying to Share my Stories.
"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: What! You too? I thought I was the only one." - C.S. Lewis
And, once again, Glennon has already written my words for me:
"We're not often permitted
to tell the truth in everyday life. There is a small set of words we are
allowed to say, like, "I'm fine, and you?" But we are not supposed to
say much of anything else, especially how we are really doing. We find
out early that telling the whole truth makes people uncomfortable and is
certainly not ladylike or likely to make us popular, so we learn to lie
sweetly so that we can be loved. And when we figure out
this system, we are split in two: the public self, who says the right
things in order to belong, and the secret self, who thinks other things.
"Every little girl is told at some point that the world does not
want to see the ugly, afraid, secret version of her. Sometimes the
people who tell her this are advertisers, sometimes they're people close
to her, and sometimes they're just her own demons.
"She must be
taught that, in fact, some people WILL want and need to hear about her
secret self ... because reading her truth will make them less afraid of
their own secret selves. And she must be taught that telling her truth
will make her less afraid, too.
"She must also be warned that her
truth will undoubtedly make some people uneasy and angry, so she'll need
to share it strategically, perhaps through art [including writing],
which God offers as a safe way to express joy and madness. And she'll
need a trusted person to help her find her medium, so she won't feel
that she has to hide any longer."
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